The dos and don’ts of an office romance

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Stolen glances at the coffee machine, knowing smiles during meetings, flirty email exchanges, and sneaking out to share a lunch break – these are some of the many small pleasures of a budding office crush. When people work together, day in day out in close proximity, it’s natural for feelings of affection and attraction to develop. Beyond that, it’s incredibly common; in fact approximately 56% of business professionals have had office romances. With the rise of social media and texting, it becomes that much easier to begin an office romance, as sending an emoticon or a cute message is as simple as the click of a button. Whether you’re participating in innocent office flirtation, or moving towards an ongoing serious relationship, it can be dangerous territory to navigate. Here are some office romance dos and don’ts for you to keep in mind as you dip your toe into the waters of mixing love and work.

Do: Seek and understand your organization’s policies
Do your homework; seek out and understand the policy on workplace romance at your organization. Are romantic relationships permitted in your workplace? Are employees obligated to tell their manager(s) about the relationship? If you’re unclear about the rules at your company or need advice, speak in confidence to Human Resources.

Do: Be up front about your expectations

Is this just a casual fling or are you hoping for something more serious? Being honest about what you are looking for can prevent suffering and misunderstandings down the road.

Don’t: Engage in public displays of affection

It can be hard to keep your feelings and desires under wraps, but when you’re working together it’s very important to do so. Seeing people touching or kissing can make your colleagues uncomfortable, and can definitely lead to gossip.

Do: Think about the implications of a break-up

Don’t: Talk about it with your colleagues

Even if they’re some of your closest friends, especially at the beginning, it is in your best interest not to seek counsel from your coworkers. They may have your best interests at heart and yet still have trouble containing the news when talk over drinks turns to workplace gossip.

Do: Stay focused on your work

Office romances can make the workplace a much more fun and stimulating place to be – you’ll definitely look forward to going to work in a whole new way. As much as possible though, try to avoid yielding to the distraction that an office romance provides: focus on your work, and let the relationship happen outside the office as much as possible. This can be good to discuss with your partner, and mutually agree upon a way to keep things under wraps at work.