Elder Care: Sources of Stress and How to Cope

If you are struggling with the challenges of helping to care for an elder relative, you’re in good company. Thirty years ago, there were 1.5 million Canadians over the age of 65. Today there are 3.6 million, many of whom are relying on relatives for their day-to-day needs. The number of elders will continue to climb even higher over the next 30 years, as medical advances continue to turn previously fatal illnesses into survivable but often chronic conditions.

Add the demands of caring for an elder relative to the challenges of a busy career and raising children, and it's no surprise that many of us have to rearrange our lives, priorities and financial resources. In short, a great deal of flexibility is required from everyone in the family, but especially from the primary caregiver.

Common Challenges

Some of the common sources of stress that caregivers of elders tend to experience include:

The need to respond to sudden crises
Trying to care for a relative who lives in a different community
Finding the time and energy to care or arrange for care
Trying to find a balance between helping your loved one and letting him or her retain their independence
Increased expenses
Making decisions involving your relative's care, medical treatment, finances and living arrangements
An increased potential for family conflicts
Competing demands of work, family, elder relatives and outside interests
Coming to terms with your loved one's declining health
Conflicting emotions—wanting to help but resenting the time

Ways to Reduce Stress

If you are feeling overwhelmed by the stress associated with caring for an elder relative, here are some suggested coping techniques:

Become as informed as possible about your loved one's condition and about the available support.

Learn how others have coped—join a support group.

Share the responsibilities with family and friends.

Seek out community agencies that provide services for seniors such as housekeeping, meals, transportation, friendly visiting, recreational activities and respite care.

Relieve as much financial pressure as possible by ensuring your loved one is receiving all the financial benefits to which he or she is entitled.

Investigate no-cost services.

Reduce uncertainty about the future by making long-term plans.

Eat well, exercise and make time for yourself.

When caring for an elder relative, this new role can create a whole slew of new responsibilities, tasks—and stress. Consider the coping techniques outlined in this article to give yourself peace of mind. And above all, don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and family for help.

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